At the same time it is crucial not to blame all men, as the overwhelming majority of them aren’t rapists. But it is important that both genders learn about boundaries early on. Discussions about boundaries should be made part of our sex-ed.
16×9 – Dangerous Game: Tropes vs Women bullying
(from 16x9onglobal )
“There’s a disturbing trend online — bullying through video games. 16×9 explores the darker side of gaming and how one female player – Anita Sarkeesian of Feminist Frequency and the Tropes vs Women web series – became a target of harassment. For more info, please go to http://bit.ly/11PezG4”
Dear LEGO – Take the Street Harassment Out of Your Stickers
My son is just getting into Legos, so I thought he’d love these stickers. Then I took a closer look and saw that one of the construction workers (the only one wearing “cool” sunglasses) was labeled “Hey Babe!”
I was stunned. Maybe it’s the fact that I just saw the team at Hollaback speak this month, or maybe it is that this is Sexual Assault Awareness Month, or maybe it is just that street harassment sucks. But chances are it was all three of these things that made me so mad to see a brand I love pushing this sort of thing.
The Hollaback website notes that street harassment is the most prevalent form of sexual violence for both men and women in the United States. Internationally, they point out, “studies show that between 70-99% of women experience street harassment at some point during their lives.”
Lego hasn’t really been on a roll recently when it comes to gender and its toys. See for example this post over at Ms. Magazine that picks apart the images of beauty in Lego’s new line of toys for girls (and check out the great ad from 1981 to see how far they have fallen).
Needless to say, I didn’t buy the stickers.
A friend of mine and I were talking the other day. I’ve been thinking about it ever since and want to share with you what we’ve come up with. Also, I’d really like your opinions. If we can create an actual dialog, that’d help me resolve the issue she has with using the term Feminist/m to describe…
I see feminism as an underlying ideology that informs everything that we do. So I don’t see a contradiction in feminists standing up for LBGT and other groups who are subject to any type of abuse. And this includes men too – it’s okay to recognize their suffering, although I think with all these things it’s helpful to maintain a sense of perspective.
Oh, and men can definitely be feminists. And they should be. The patriarchy affects them too, and what happens to the women around them affects them. Like @notsoniceguys says, it’s perfectly fine to be anti-racist without being subject to racism. It is short-sighted and silly to exclude men from feminism. Accept them as feminists, and instead of emphasizing that they can’t understand what we go through, try to help them understand. They’ll become richer persons for understanding what life is like for the other half of the population, and feminism will grow stronger as more and more men feel comfortable saying they are feminist. And them telling their mates that something they did to a woman isn’t okay can be a more effective way to change behaviour than our marches.
These men were sentenced by an Iranian judge to wear women’s clothing in public to humiliate them. The men were not impressed by this sentence and wore them proudly, protesting the idea that being a woman is something to be ashamed of
I need feminism because when I was little my mum used to stop telling me to be bossy and so I became less assertive, culminating in a guy refusing to let me say no to him last September.
I once had a guy tell me that he didn’t handle rejection very well… then he fired me for refusing to sleep with him and told me this was a good thing and we both needed to move on for closure. 6 years of working my way up down the drain. He keeps his millions and his pride.
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Sigh. Who else has experiences sexual advances by someone higher-up at work?